This is a quote from the book "The ​Virtue Of Selfishness" by Ayn Rand
...lf-esteem — self-esteem and an unclouded sense of the value of existence. To such a man, sex is an act of celebration, its meaning is a tribute to himself and to the woman he has chosen, the u ltimate form of experiencing concretely and in his own person the value and joy of being alive.

The need for such an experience is inherent in man’s nature. But if a man lacks th
e self-esteem to earn it, he attempts to fake it — and he chooses his partner (subconsciously) by the standard of her ability to help him fake it, to give him the illusion of a self-value he d...
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