This is a quote from the book "The ​Virtue Of Selfishness" by Ayn Rand
...e self-esteem to earn it, he attempts to fake it — and he chooses his partner (subconsciously) by the standard of her ability to help him fake it, to give him the illusion of a self-value he d oes not possess and of a happiness he does not feel.

Thus, if a man is attracted to a woman of intelligence, confidence and strength, if he is attracted to a heroine, he reveals on
e kind of soul; if, instead, he is attracted to an irresponsible, helpless scatterbrain, whose weakness enables him to feel masculine, he reveals another kind of soul; if he is attracted to a fr...
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